Friday Faves – dian malouf’s Go Girl Ring


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I have a long history with one piece of jewlery. A Go Girl ring, designed by Dian Malouf. She originally designed the ring as a tangible sign of support for girlfriends who were going through cancer treatments. I first wore my Go Girl ring in December 1999 for a dear friend, Patricia, who was fighting Inflammatory Breast Cancer. I bought a ring for her and one for me, and by the time she died in February 2000 there were approximately 25 women wearing the Go Girl ring for her. 

Lovely Patricia

Lovely Patricia

I continued to wear the ring for a year after Patricia died, I couldn’t bear to take it off.¬† It was my lifeline to her and I feared the bareness I would feel when I removed it. I finally put it away, but¬†pulled it back out in 2002 for my college roomie and dear friend BC. Patricia, BC and I were members of the same church and BC was a Go Girl for Patricia. Patricia’s Go Girls wore their rings for BC, and new friends were added. BC had a good outcome from her lumpectomy and we all breathed a sigh of relief.

One of BC’s Go Girls was our college friend Lana who lived in Memphis. In the fall of 2004, Lana was diagnosed with lung cancer. She never smoked so this was a total surprise. Those of us with Go Girl rings who knew Lana put them back on, and many of Lana’s Memphis friends also got rings. Lana died in July 2006 and there were many Go Girls from all over at the funeral. You can read about Lana at: http://www.caringbridge.org/tn/lanamason/¬†.

Prayer hands for BC

Prayer hands for BC

I¬†had not even had time to think about removing my ring after Lana’s death before BC was again diagnosed with breast and a second type cancer in September 2006.She had to have a lumpectomy and radiation which took us through the end of 2006.¬† There were many Go Girls with BC when she rang the bell at the end of treatment.

Cake at BC's bell ringing!

Cake at BC's bell ringing!

¬†So it’s been a quiet couple of years. I’ve been wearing a lovely Alamo ring, also designed by Dian. ¬†More on that next week.¬† And then, I got a phone call¬†in February of this year. My precious childhood friend PW called me to say she has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. We grew up together in West Texas.¬† Our folks were good friends so we¬†often played together.¬† We also attended college¬†with BC and Lana. PW was a Go Girl for¬†BC and Lana, so of course the rings¬†have been¬†pulled out for her. I call her The Younger as she is three years younger than me. She calls me The Older. paulagogirlPW lives in Georgia, so it is a comfort to me to put on my ring every morning and think of her.¬† My friend BC says ‚Äúshooting arrows of prayer upward‚ÄĚ *as a Go Girl said to her* and that‚Äôs what I do each time I put on my Go Girl ring.¬† PW has had surgery and is currently undergoing chemo; we are hopeful about her outcome.¬† I would be grateful for your prayers in her behalf.

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When I look at my Go Girl ring, I don’t see the illness, sadness, disappointment that sometimes comes with wearing it.What I see is the way friends surround someone in crisis and lift them up with support and prayer.  I see the way that Go Girls can all be linked in the world, no matter how far away we are.  I see the hope that flows from loving relationships and the healing from being a part of a group that loves as hard as they can.  I see how touched and honored each friend has felt to know there was a special group of women who went above and beyond to make sure the honoree knew she had the Go Girls behind her.  I see my friend looking at her ring and knowing she is never alone. I see my connection to my friend no matter where I am.

Now, the Go Girl ring is not strictly for support in bad times.¬† Dian says she wants ‚Äúwomen to believe in themselves.‚Ä̬† I‚Äôve given a ring to each of my nieces graduating from high school to remind them I‚Äôm rooting for them to succeed.¬† You could give a ring to someone getting married, starting a first job, becoming a mommy.¬† ¬†If you would like to have your own Go Girl ring, give a Go Girl ring as a gift, or start your own Go Girl support group for someone, ¬†you can find more information here.¬†pinkgogirlcrClick Jewelry, then¬†¬†Endearings. The best way to order a ring is to call the company directly at 214-520-3123. When I order from them, I receive my items quickly. The only thing¬† that might cause a slowdown is if they don’t have your size ring.

Tell¬†’em Lone Star Lifer¬†sent ya!

 

Next week’s Friday Faves: A continuation of the dian malouf thread.

 

All photographs and writing property of LoneStarLifer. 2009.

Lana Thrailkill Mason 1957 – 2006


Three years ago today I lost a dear friend.  And today I want to say her name out-loud to honor her memory.
Lana. Thrailkill. Mason.
Diva Lana coming in for a chemo treatment.

Diva Lana coming in for a chemo treatment.

I called her Lana Lana Lana.
She answered back Paula Paula Paula.

Lana was a wife for more than 20 years, devoted PTA and team mom, wonderful singer, boisterous laugher, lover of life, generous lemonade stand supporter, loyal friend, gracious hostess, giver of gifts, gentle soul, life of the party.  Would you believe that the day she went into the hospital for surgery to remove part of her lung that she arrived in a tiara, hot pink feather boa and magic wand???  When I think of Lana, I think of passion and cantagious laughter and a smile that crinkled her eyes into little slits.  She was in no way perfect, but she was perfectly fine for me!

She didn’t smoke but was diagnosed with lung cancer in the fall of 2004.¬† She fought with all her might, displaying grace and dignity along the way, but the end came on July 2, 2006.¬† Her mother’s birthday.

Ruling from her throne.

Ruling from her throne.

During her illness I kept a website¬†for her at caringbridge.org.¬† Do you know about caringbridge?¬† It is a free site dedicated to helping folks with terminal/chronic illnesses and/or receiving treatment to have one central place to disperse accurate information.¬† During the year and a half of Lana’s illness, interested parties could go to her site and find out¬†the latest on Lana’s treatments, how she was feeling physically, mentally, emotionally, if she felt well enough for phone calls, etc. When she died I was able to put out an alert almost immediately so¬†friends all over could be informed at once instead of having to make dozens of phone calls.¬† She had over 12,ooo hits on her site when she died, which tells you how many friends she had and how loved she was.

Go Girls for Lana.

Go Girls for Lana.

 

 
There were several friends and family who wore the Go Girl Ring for Lana.
That’s another post for another time, so stay tuned.¬†

 

 

 

I think one fear many of us have¬†about dying is that no one will notice that¬†we are gone, or that¬†we were ever here.¬† Arthur Miller wrote in Death of a Salesman, “Attention must be paid.”¬† Lana, attention continues to be paid.¬† There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think of you.¬† That your dear friend Jan doesn’t think about you.¬† Or Evie, or Curtis, or Patrick, or Trey, or Gay, or Kathy, or Brenda, or Paula W……………………………….

I miss you, Lana Lana Lana.¬† I hope you, your dad, my dad, Brother Cox, so many other loved ones, are having a joyous sing-a-long today.¬† I can just hear ya’ll.

To read more about Lana’s journey:
http://www.caringbridge.org/tn/lanamason/

To see videos I made in tribute to Lana:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsnJPlKY5p8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQhwCfbLoLo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AN10c1MGV0c
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When I Get Where I’m Going
Brad Paisley (feat. Dolly Parton)

When I get where I’m going
On the far side of the sky
The first thing that I’m gonna do
Is spread my wings and fly

I’m gonna land beside a lion
And run my fingers through his mane
Or I might find out what it’s like
To ride a drop of rain

[Chorus]
Yeah when I get where I’m going
There’ll be only happy tears
I will shed the sins and struggles
I have carried all these years
And I’ll leave my heart wide open
I will love and have no fear
Yeah when I get where I’m going
Don’t cry for me down here

I’m gonna walk with my granddaddy
And he’ll match me step for step
And I’ll tell him how I missed him
Every minute since he left
Then I’ll hug his neck

[Repeat chorus]

So much pain and so much darkness
In this world we stumble through
All these questions I can’t answer
So much work to do

But when I get where I’m going
And I see my Maker’s face
I’ll stand forever in the light
Of His amazing grace
Yeah when I get where I’m going
There’ll be only happy tears
Hallelujah
I will love and have no fear
When I get where I’m going
Yeah when I get where I’m going
(written by Rivers Rutherford)

All photographs and writing property of LoneStarLifer. 2009.